Saturday, July 24, 2010

Motivation Vs Determination

Thanks to Teejay for the photo.
So what does determination mean to me?
(I don't smoke, but I like this example)

Determination is an act of will to stop yourself smoking, or to stop any bad habit. You force yourself to stop. You're actively redirecting yourself. Your thinking and focusing on the process the whole time. Every time you reach for a smoke, you pull your hand away and go do something else in the hope you won't cave in. This works cross-contextually. You could apply to drinking, being over weight or any other bad habit(s) you can come up with. 

What does motivation mean to me?

Motivation is the thinking about the end step and letting yourself be drawn to it. Almost like a rubber band. You're motivated to get the outcome you want. You're not smoking because your on the way to quiting, you're thinking about the end when you will be healthy and can run the fastest 100 metre sprint you ever have (insert your own goal here)

2 Stories:

Cross, hook, right kick, left knee, cross, left kick, knee...... I've just done this same combo 15 times in my 4th, 3 minute round while kickboxing.  I'm so tired, I have been pushing the tempo. But, I'm determined to keep it up until the end of the round. I'm thinking "I'll be able to rest at the end". But, to be honest it all seemed like hard work. I lacked the wanting to punish the Thai kick pads. I completed the round but, it wasn't as satisfying.
This first story is a usual thing for me. I can push through just about anything. But, for some reason the end never tastes as good as I think it will. I was determined to push through and complete the rounds but, my heart wasn't in it.

Cross, hook, right kick, left knee, cross, left kick, knee...... I've just done this same combo 15 times in my 4th, 3 minute round while kickboxing.  I'm so tired, I have been pushing the tempo. But I'm motivated. I know what I want, the end step is clear. I take a big deep breath and push harder. I can feel the flow of everything. I feel aligned and like my body is working with me to get to the end of the round. I'm relaxed and the punches feel twice as hard as they usually do. I finish the round, I feel good and like I could do another. I'm pumped and feel alive.
This second story is something new to me. I have just started to experiment with motivation and allowing myself to be drawn to end by a desired outcome. I would have to say it's a lot easier and feels a lot better. 

Not having a clear image of what you want and just doing the work won't let you dig deeper and will give you the same mediocre outcome you have always been getting.
Knowing why your doing something, I think, is the most important thing you figure out. You will dig deeper. 

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Letting people lose honourably

We were grappling, I had side mount. My knees where tucked under his back. My hands were locked in a gable grip behind his right shoulder. He was squirming a lot trying to get out of the posistion I had got him into.

The whole time he had been successfully preventing me from getting full mount. But, I was patient. I was waiting for a window of oppurtunaty to show itself.

The window showed itself, I jumped over his legs and got to the full mount posistion. Good, now I play the waiting game again and try and tie up his arms. I faked grabbing his left arm for an arm bar. He defended, I then grabbed his right arm, swung my left leg over his head locked his right in and proceeded to hold on waiting for him to give up and let go of his arm.

This is where I'm going to pause my story.

My whole life has been spent getting into battles in different situations and waiting for the other to give up. I can be very very persistant. I pride myself of this quality. But, winning has eluded me.

So why has winning eluded me? Well, I'm very persistant. But, people can be very stubborn. As the old saying goes "they'll cut of their nose off to spite their face".

So, I'm locked in this battle. He has grabbed his arm that I had almost locked in a arm bar and is holding on. There is no way out of the lock I had on him in. I knew this and he knew this. I thought he would realise this and just let go, there was no way out. But, he wouldn't. I held on and pulled at his arm but, he was stubborn and wouldn't give up and let go.


If I beat him by sheer power and strength, it will humilate him. He doesn't want to be humilated and is holding on. Not only to not lose, but to keep his sense of identity. He doesn't want to be humilated because another person has overpowered him. Some could say he should realise that he has lost and just be humble enough to give up. But, he's not a Buddah and has problems.

I'm getting tired, holding on is gassing out my arms and legs. I need to finish this quickly. Up until this point I had been directly challenging him. I needed something else.

I had to let him give up and also keep his honour. So, I started picking at his fingers and pushing the hand that was holding on. Eventually his grip lessened slightly and I capatilsed and pushed his hand off and locked in the arm bar. He tapped out and I won.

So what changed? I'm very sure he could of kept holding on for a while longer. So instead, I gave him an excuses to give up. I was allowing him to have a honourable way out by attacking his grip. I was no longer directly challenging him.

I won, but he saved face. It was a Win/Win situation.

If you want to win and the person your dealing with is being stubborn. Stop directly challenging them and give them a excuse to conceed. If you can allow someone to save face while getting out of a situation they will usually take it.

Go for the Win/Win.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Stretching and why it may not matter

Thanks to bodderick performance for pointing out a lecture by Doug Richards on why stretching doesn't necessarily increase performance or prevent injuries. It's 45 minutes but well worth the listen to.

 Click here to watch.

Couldn't figure out how to embed it sorry.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

120kg Deadlift

120kg = 1 rep

110kg = 5 reps

120 kg is my biggest deadlift ever. 
(We were packing up and someone put the bench there, I was to lazy to move it for the photo and I wanted to go home)

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

From 0 to Hero

Well, I thought I would blog on a experiment I did to gain 10 kgs of mostly muscle last year.

At the time, I weighed 75kg and was the epitome of awesome as you can tell from the below photo (sarcasm).

So, I have been skinny my whole life and have tried numerous things to put on weight. A lot of things that everyone recommend to me were lift weights, eat a steak everyday, drink weight gain shakes and eat heaps of junk food which was a funny one.

But none of these worked, so I was a happy chappy as you can tell. I look quiet enthused.


After chatting with a buddy of mine who weighed 96kgs and could bench press 140kg 6 (reps) times I change a few things. What did we talk about? Lifting weight? not really, how to swing a hoolahoop around your hips properly, nah. But, that would have been funny.
What we talked about was my diet. His main questions revolved around how many calories I was eating. I guessed around 2.5k calories. 

He chuckled, which was slightly annoying.

He said I need to eat a lot more food. I need to eat 4000 calories a day. Not just any type of calories, they had to be clean calories. So, no junk food at all. I know it's obvious, eat more to put on more weight. But, I needed the proof from someone who had done it. Not just your average person who doesn't know shit about weight gain. 

I have some direction, now I'm happy. I celebrate by wearing a towel on my head.

By the way, I wasn't talking to that guy.

This conversation happened exactly 1 month into a 3 month weight lifting program I had designed for my self. 
After 1 month I was still in the same position as I was when I started. There was some small changes, but nothing big.

I could:
Benchpress : 40kg
Deadlift : 35kg
Squat : 30kg
Whinge a lot : 99999

Weighed 75kg

So with 2 months left I started eating 4000 calories. 
The results were fantastic.

I immediately exploded in the amount of weight I could push out and my muscle size grew at a phenomenal rate.
I went from 0 to Hero. 
( Those red dots on my back are from 13 spider bites)

Looking good eh?

Well, I look like a have some muscles which was the result I wanted.

So, how much could I lift and how much did I weigh?
Benchpress : 85kg, 8 reps.
Deadlift : 87.5kg 11 reps
Squat : 110kg 5 reps
Awesomeness : 99999
I weighed 85kg of muscle. I put on 10kg in 2 months.! (without stretchmarks).

So if your skinny and wearing a towel on your head and want to get big? Eat a lot of food.

If you want ideas for food, leave a comment and I see if can remember some stuff.

So what's next?

Side note : Thanks for Jacques for pointing an article that goes through in more detail. I highly recommend it.

Monday, May 24, 2010

Anatomy of Peace

Anatomy of Peace

Wow, what a great book. Reading the cover I was very skeptical about its contents. I have read many airy-fairy books, only to be disappointed.

One very good concept they talk about is justification v's being true to yourself.

Example: When I was about 8 years old a older lady fell over and split her knee open. She totally freaked out. I stopped and got a shop owner to call an ambulance. I didn't get any thank you from her (I'm thinking she had bigger things to worry about). But, I felt really good about stopping and helping her out. I was being true to myself, I wanted to help her.

Years later, I became a bit more jaded about the world. I was walking to work and I passed a girl who has crying her guts out. I didn't do anything, which I hate to admit. I justified why I didn't need to stop, I came up with some good excuses. I'm going to be late for work, she can deal with it herself, a friend is probably on the way to help her out.

It seemed like a small thing at the time. But, the image of that girl is burned into my brain. I wish I had stopped. The price I payed for not being true to myself has outweighed 10 fold the small inconvenience it would have been to help her.

If you find yourself justifying why not do to something re-think about it and see if you can.
If the situation is dangerous IE getting into a fight or lending large amounts of money, use common sense there is a reason why we justify.
You will probably notice how much you do it, don't get bummed out and stop, because your justifying again why not to follow your path.
Be awesome.
Once you reduce what you justify you will begin to see people for who they really are and your rules about how people should act will be lessened.

Thanks and please comment on similar things you have been through.


If you have haters in your life listen to Katt Williams. He will set you straight.